This what I am doing this morning. My daughter is on her final college tour before she starts to make her decisions. This school is at the bottom of her list of choices right now but we all felt she needed to take the tour and see how it felt for her.
So, I let her go. I don’t go on the tours with her. I go out to my car and try to blend in to the scenery. This is her decision and she knows what she needs to ask. If I have questions later that she cannot answer we can find out the answers. But, she needs to feel free to experience the schools on her own without my input or influence. She has to make the decisions about colleges, online schools, or work for herself.
I am letting go. Guiding, but not trying to influence. Who said parenting got easier the older the kids got? So much more seems to be at stake for them and by now I feel like I no longer should be influencing but coaching as needed. It’s hard to watch them flutter and fall as they take those first independent leaps but I know she will eventually soar no matter what she chooses.