About a year and a half ago I wrote a blog post “Standing on the Edge of the Sandwich Generation” (click for link to original blog post) about a visit my daughter and I made to visit my parents. I knew at that time that they were starting to have a bit of “trouble” getting around. Nothing pressing just normal age related things but I knew at that time they were not going to get any younger.
We are heading back down to visit them. I have been listening to my mother’s calls and reports on her and my father’s health. I have been trying to be present on the phone when I can but as they live 12-13 hours away I just have not been able to be there physically. That I believe, I will find out, has been a mistake.
Thinking about those moments when you will need to step in and how you don’t want to take away their independence is tough. There are tough conversations ahead but I hope to begin them now before we are in crisis mode and don’t have a plan or know what they would want us to do.
So, tough. I watched my mother go through this with her mother about 20 years ago and my partner and her family go through this with my mother-in-law 4-5 years ago. I know what lies ahead but we are somehow never prepared for it. How can it be 2018 and we are not prepared to care for our older adults? Shouldn’t we have figure this out by now.