Things are speeding up. Last night was prom for my son. From the time he was little you wonder (and worry) about where life will take him. For us it was how is he going to make it in this world if we are not here and will he ever have friends? Well, last night we answered one of those questions.
He is part of a Geek group. He will tell you they are all self professed Geeks. There is not a planner among them but they worked it out. Up until last weekend he knew he wanted to go to prom so he got a ticket and a new suit. Then on Thursday he told us he thought he was invited to an after party but he wasn’t sure he was “really” invited. So, we navigated that piece of how to find out if he was invited with out asking the person, “Can I come?” Then I wanted to take pictures of them before the prom if possible so can you all meet downtown to take pictures? They decided on 5:30 pm. 5:30?? The prom starts at 7:00 and it is 5 minutes from the school!! We get to take pictures and they are talking about going to Chili’s or Applebee’s for dinner. Ah, ok. He missed this whole middle section of them planning or not planning until the last minute.
So, we sent him off to dinner, prom, and after party. My partner shed some tears. I felt happiness and gratitude. There were many, many people on this road that have helped get him this far. When we were in the thick of thing we NEVER saw it getting better. Everyone told us it gets better, hold on. But, we only knew how bad it was in that moment and could never see him or us being okay with life.
Now, it may not look like the perfect life we may have envisioned for him before he was born. Oh, there are still miles to go but at least we are starting to see the other side. That he may one day be able to live on his own or at least with others and take care of himself and have a real life whatever that may look like.