Saturday Musings: It isn’t Always What it Looks Like Online

Things are difficult sometimes but we don’t always say those things. Instead we cover over it with the things that make us and our families look perfect or ideal. But, no one has a perfect life without the storms.

My son has his storms daily. He has been on medication for ADHD, depression, and mild ODD for years now. It gives him the chance to stop and think clearly without his thoughts spinning out of control. This past Tuesday we got a call from him and the college counselor that we needed to come pick him up from school and they were placing him on medical release. They thought it was best that he come home from college to get his medications back on track, he hadn’t taken them in over two weeks. Not taking the meds leads to depression, which leads to him not taking his medications, which leads to him being more depressed….

This came to a head on Monday when he missed another morning class. He was staying up until 4-5 am trying to get his homework done and then would fall asleep and miss his alarm at 8 am. He would beat himself up calling himself stupid, dumb, and an idiot. He is none of those things.

So, he is home getting back on his meds and hopefully going back to school next week. I cannot say enough good things about the college in stepping in and helping him do the right thing without just kicking him out of school.

Life is never as easy as it appears online. There are always bumps in the road.

12 Comments Add yours

  1. David says:

    This reminds me of my #2 son’s issues with college. He wasn’t taking any meds for his ADHD and Aspergers Syndrome and eventually dropped out He did return, becoming a CADD (Computer Assisted Drafter and Designer) certificate holder. But those were stressful times for his mother and me. Hang in there.

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    1. koolaidmoms says:

      Thank you.

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  2. PATRICIA GRATTAN says:

    Dear Marci and Ann. No wonder you are posting this at 6 a.m. on a weekend. I wouldn’t be sleeping well either. May God bless you and George on this rocky trail and lead you to a beautiful vista when you reach the summit. Love, Pat

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  3. Erika says:

    He seems to be at a really good college place. Wow! How thoughtful and caring they are. By all the worries about him, this must be a relief and pillar for you to know.

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    1. koolaidmoms says:

      Thank you, Erika! I was not sure if he was in the right school but after this past week I know he is.

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      1. Erika says:

        It is a big relief as I can imagine.

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  4. This situation is not at all unusual for college freshmen, or even for older students who may be experiencing novel stress situations. (I’ve taught college for a long, long time.) It sounds like your son’s college has excellent student services! Best wishes for a quick recovery and return to classes. I hope he can stop berating himself and realize instead how smart it was for him to recognize what was happening and take the necessary corrective action. College is a marathon not a sprint, etc. The important thing is to eventually get to the finish line. I so admire students I’ve known who struggled but were resilient and tenacious enough to keep going and finally make it to graduation. He can do it!

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    1. koolaidmoms says:

      Thank you! He has the desire to return so we hope that will help boost him back on his path.

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  5. pujakins says:

    Life is so much more complicated than it used to be, yet in many ways, better too. wishing you every joy as you navigate the rapids, Tasha

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    1. koolaidmoms says:

      Thank you!

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  6. It sounds like a good college, keeping in touch properly

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  7. Carol anne says:

    Glad the college stepped in! Hopefully he’ll be feeling better soon! Xx

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